Page 1 Page 2 Page 3 Page 4 Page 5 Page 6 Page 7 Page 8 Page 9 Page 10 Page 11 Page 12 Page 13 Page 14 Page 15 Page 16 Page 17 Page 18 Page 19 Page 20 Page 21 Page 22 Page 23 Page 24 Page 25 Page 26 Page 27 Page 28 Page 29 Page 30 Page 31 Page 32 Page 33 Page 3422  Ask open-ended questions that require more than one-word an- swers. Instead of “How was school?” say “Tell me about your day” or “What’s that book about?”  For there to be genuine and effective communication, there must be an honest exchange of thoughts, opinions, and ideas. You may not always agree with the thoughts and ideas your child shares with you, but interrupting to scold or lecture may cause your child to shut down, or to only tell you what he/she thinks you want to hear.  At this age, children often begin to challenge their parents’ authority. Your child may at times respond to commands or requests with a grunt or in a tone of voice that’s less than pleasant. Chalk this up to moodiness or rebellion. The important thing is that your child does what you say. Expecting him/her to be happy about it may be too much to ask.  Although children may act like they don’t hear a thing their parents have to say, they do listen. They listen to the words, and also to their par- ents’ tone of voice. Children need to hear that their parents have faith in them, and that their parents love them unconditionally.  Recognize the importance of nonverbal communication. Children are not always able to put into words what they want or need their parents to know. It is, therefore, important to pay attention to body language, moods, eating habits, sleeping patterns, and school per- formance. These can be good indicators of how things are going at school and with friends.  When children seem down or upset, often a hug or a few words of encouragement are all they need. If you sense that there is a seri- ous problem that needs to be addressed, let your child know that you’re concerned. If you feel that you need help, talk to your child’s teacher, counselor, or physician. Last, but certainly not least, keep your sense of humor.