24 Provide appropriate consequences Children make mistakes, and sometimes they make bad choices. Realizing that there are consequences for bad choices and decisions, however, is part of growing up. To help ensure that the consequences you provide are appropriate and effective, consider the guidelines below. u Use logical consequences whenever possible. “Since you were late getting home from T.J.’s house, you’re not allowed to go to his house for the rest of the week.” u Never take away a positive activity (e.g., sports, music lessons, school activities) as a consequence. u Never use physical punishment as a consequence. u Consequences should be specific and for a definite period of time (e.g., no video games for one week). u Don’t feel that you must provide immediate consequences. Take time to think things over and to decide what the most appropriate consequence might be.