Page 1 Page 2 Page 3 Page 4 Page 5 Page 6 Page 7 Page 8 Page 9 Page 10 Page 11 Page 12 Page 13 Page 14 Page 15 Page 16 Page 17 Page 18Be observant Young people are often afraid or embarrassed to tell their parents they are being bullied. If your child exhibits any of the following, ask if anyone is bothering him/her. • Suddenly more anxious, quiet, or insecure • Refusing to go to school • Drop in grades • Loss of appetite • Complaints of illness • Unexplained injuries Monitor online activity and cell phone use Have clear cut rules and guidelines for Internet and cell phone use. Listen to your child When children are being bullied, it’s critical that their parents believe, support, and empower them. Parents should ask their child to explain what has happened, who was involved, how often it has occurred, when, and where. Also, make a printout of anything that has been sent or posted online. Talk to your child, and together decide how to best handle the situation. Communicate concerns Sharing information and working with school officials is the best way to stop bullying at school. Take it seriously and don’t make excuses. Listen to your child’s reasons, but emphasize that there are always other options, no matter what the situation. Avoid lecturing, criticizing, and blaming. Be loving and firm, and focus on solutions. Discuss the consequences of bullying, and hold your child accountable. Allow your child to experience the consequences. If Your Child Is a Target Is your child a bully? If you learn that your child is bullying others, here are some suggestions. 15