Bullies Can Change Being a bully can be hard. People may act friendly, but they aren’t true friends. And always having to prove how tough you are can be tiresome. If you recognize that you may be a bully, or are perhaps feeling badly about how you’ve treated others in the past, consider doing the following: Examine your motives. What have you done and why did you do it? Try to develop better problem-solving skills. Look for alternative ways to solve problems, and for better ways to communicate with others. Increase your empathy. Put yourself in another person’s shoes and try to imagine how he/she might feel. Find positive ways to be powerful. Get involved in activities, and look for positive ways to use your passions, strengths, and/or leadership skills. Statistics show that 1 in 4 bullies will have a criminal record before the age of 30.